I’m Chinese But Have Grown To Hate Chinese New Year.
As I grow older, it seems like every Chinese New Year is just another occasion where families gather for food and make small talk. And that’s about it. It’s just not as exciting anymore. That’s why I’m dreading the upcoming lunar new year. But before you flame me, I actually do have valid reasons for not liking Chinese New Year.
I can’t visit my mum’s family
My mum’s family is in Sarawak, Malaysia which is extremely far. It takes nearly half a day to get there, and we still have our dad’s family to visit as well. Aside from that, there is a language barrier whenever I visit them. I’m unable to communicate with my grandmother and aunts. Everything is done through my mother, and I always feel helpless and bad for not being able to respond to them. If we have a reunion dinner, it will be just my mother and her family talking.
My cousins and I have a significant age gap
The number of houses I visit decreases each year. In fact, last year, I visited more temples than houses. That aside, when I meet my cousins, I find it difficult to click with them. My cousins are in their thirties, while I am in my twenties. Plus, they all seem closer to each other as well.
As an introvert, I find it awkward to be around them and just start a random conversation.
And honestly, we don’t much any common interests as well. That’s why I really admire people who have close relationships with their cousins.
I keep getting questioned
This is one of the most unpleasant parts about meeting my relatives. Every year, they’ll ask the same questions.
“Do you have a boyfriend?”, “Are you still studying?”, and “Oh, where are you working now?”
I’m sick of having to say whether or not I’m attached. I guess I’ll have to wait until I find a guy I can bring to these reunion dinners so he can be questioned instead.
I was dumped on the eve of Chinese New Year
Last year, my then-boyfriend came over to my house for reunion dinner before breaking up with me that very night. Though it hurts like f**k, I’m somewhat honoured because I’m probably the first girl ever to get dumped that way. Why does every guy I date break up with me on special occasions?
These are just a few of the reasons why I hate Chinese New Year. I’m sure most of you enjoy them and more power to you! After all, it’s a special occasion for family bonding. Just not in mine.
What about you, how’s your Chinese New Year experience? Do you absolutely hate or love the new year? Share your story with us!
